Getting noticed and attracting the right type of date online

By Love and Relationships Staff

So you’re thinking of online dating for the first time? Hang on, don’t jump in just yet. While it’s easy to throw together a profile on the dating site a friend has recommended, it pays to think about your approach. This article provides advice on how to get the most out of online dating.

Look around

There are a large number of different dating sites available, from those aimed at people into sport, to adult dating sites. Some dating sites have a specific focus, while others are more general. Even the more general ones are likely to attract a slightly different demographic, depending on variables such as cost, and where they market. Look around a few sites, and have a look at the profiles of some of the people. Are they the type of people you would like to meet? Would you have things in common with them? And remember, bigger isn’t necessarily better. Bigger means more choice, but if bigger was better the everybody in New York would be hooked up, and you only have to watch Sex and the City to know it doesn’t work like that.

Creating your profile

Having worked out which site to join, it’s time to work on your profile.

1. Select a photo

Let’s be honest. The photo is the most important aspect of your profile, so make it a good one. If you were looking hot last summer, put one of those photos in. And it’s good to use more than one photo. Perhaps a photo doing something active, and then dressed up to go out. This will show a little bit of your personality and help you attract a date that is compatible.
And remember, don’t put in a photo which has obviously been taken with a member of the opposite sex, with the photo cropped so you can only see the edge of their face. That’s just weird.

2. Write your profile

Once a potential date likes the photo, they will probably look at the profile. In doing so they will be making a number of judgments including;

- Is this person intelligent?
- Is this person somebody I will have something in common with?
- Will they meet my needs?

So how do you get it across that you can do this?

- Make every word count. Don’t try to fill up the spaces. Say something interesting, and stop.
- Use good grammar and make sure the spelling is correct to make sure your profile showcases your intelligence.
- Have interests. People who have interests appear more interesting. While watching TV is a good leisure activity it shouldn’t be your only interest.
- Mention your achievements. That’s right, people who achieve are also attractive as mates.
- Be yourself, within reason. If you are trying to attract somebody who you want to get on with, you need to show our true colours. Having said that, trying to be  quirky is very difficult to get across in short profile, so play it safe. Until you get the chance to meet them at least.
- Be positive. Life isn’t always rosy, but Emo’s didn’t last for a reason. Everybody got sick of them moaning (and wanted their safety pins back).

So online dating can be a great way to meet people. But think carefully about where you look, what photos to use and how you come across in a profile.

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