Signs of Love - Is it Love?

By Jules Monty

So many people, in the midst of powerful feelings, ask themselves if what they are experiencing in true love; or, they ask if the relationship they are in is a truly loving relationship. Finally, they may wonder if their partner or spouse truly loves them.
I struggled with such questions myself until I found the answers; I never looked back ever since!

First of all: what is love?

Love is 2 things, and they cannot be separate:

1 - A feeling. I feel elated, kind, happy, generous, giving and warm when I am with you. I want you to be happy, I am happy to see you smiling. I get to know the real you, the inner you (your hopes, dreams, desires, your fears, your pain) and I still want to share my life path with you. Knowing you more and more makes me love you more and more. By the same token, my partner feels and does the same for me: this allows me to relax and be truly myself in our relationship, to feel comforted and nurtured.

2 - An act. Every day I act lovingly towards you. Your best interests are in my heart and in my intentions and, in particular, anything that makes you truly happy; anything that contributes to your life's dreams and goals. I support you in any way I can, especially emotionally. I am your soft place to fall.

Of course, my partner or spouse does the same to me.

If your relationship consists of the above, then you have found true love and your relationship is a true loving relationship, highly likely to last the test of times and the many life challenges. The passion may fade with time but the love (as described above) between the two of you keeps you together and makes the bond stronger and stronger.

It is therefore easy to see that true love has nothing to do with passion. It may include passion, great sex, the 'high' of being in love', but passion, great sex and the 'high' of being in love have nothing to do with true love per se. Mistaking this costs many failed relationship, anger and resentment.

It is therefore important to learn to distinguish the signs of love from an early point in your relationship, as opposed to the warning signs suggesting the opposite. Doing this will eliminate the possibility of a toxic or abusive, or just incompatible relationship.

Learn the full signs of a SOLID DANGEROUS or LOVING RELATIONSHIP to avoid future pain. Also, learn the sign that your boyfriend or girlfriend is truly in love with you early on, when you are dating, namely the SIGNS THEY'RE IN LOVE with you.

Jules Monty, author of My Searching For Love (website)

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