Is it Lust Or is it Love? Simple and Easy Check List to Spare You From Troubles Later On!

By Jules Monty

If you are a man, you may want to learn to know the difference in order to avoid making rash decisions only to be disappointed or taken advantage of. Read on if you want to know why I'm saying this.

Equally, if you are a woman, you may also need to know the difference to prevent being heartbroken by your guy.

A Man's feelings are only Lust-Based if:

1 - All he can think of is the woman's looks (as a whole or.. in parts). He may not know anything about the girl/woman but he's already fantasizing about her sexually

2 - He equates being with her with having sex with her. It's not about the conversation, her personality, her ideas, what she did during the day etc, but only about sex. In fact, the less she talks the better. He is absolutely not interested in her as a thinking human being, her ideas, her opinions, her life.

3 - He therefore finds excuses to avoid being with her if the meeting is not sexually-based.

4 - He seems to call at the last minute to meet her, and the meeting will primarily be sex-based.

5 - After sex, he can't wait to leave. No kind, romantic gestures, no cuddling, no sweet words. Sex and exit or sex, sleep and exit.

Remember that if a man's feelings are only lust-based there is absolutely no point in trying to make him fall in love with you by sleeping with him. A man's heart is very far from his crotch! Only if he is already enamored will sex enhance his feelings. Otherwise, it's a booty call no matter how many trimmings you may wish to put around it.

If you are a man and you're reading this, you need to realize that whilst you're feelings are lust-based you are vulnerable too? Why? If you are strongly attracted to her your mind will be clouded by lust and you will not see any warning signs that may indicate that she's out to drain your bank account, or even a psychopath! Because you don't pay attention to anything but her external beauty, warning signs in her thinking may be severely overlooked and, later on, you may find yourself in a jam! Therefore, learn the signs that of

FALLING IN LOVE

, so that you know what you're dealing with as soon as possible.

If you are in love, then you may need to learn the signs of a

WOMAN IN LOVE

, so that your heart is only given when she's given hers to you.

Of course, if you are reading this and you're a girl, your man's actions towards you may be only lust-based but he may try and camouflage this in order to 'use' you as long as he can. It's a good idea, therefore, to learn the signs of a man in love (see in the paragraph above) so that you can give him your heart only when he's given you his.

Jules Monty, author of 'My Searching For Love'

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New Comment Created by Rhi on 11/05/2010 21:20:34 wots this all about? Lust is what gets u into a relnship. but luv is wot keeps it goin. u just need to wait and see. Post A Comment Your Name Title Comment New Comment Enter the code