How to Break Up As Painlessly As Possible

By Soren Michaels

Break ups are often painful, but they don't have to be that bad. So, is there way to break up that's painless to you and to your partner? How do you get out of that relationship without causing too much damage? Many claim it's impossible. I think it's not only possible, but also relatively easy to do. I've put a few things together for you to read, consider and use. Of course they won't make you immune to hurt feelings and strong emotions, but hopefully, you'll be able to leave that relationship strong, positive and maybe even satisfied.

1. Choose the proper location for the breakup. I strongly discourage breaking up at your house, because you'll not only have to end the relationship but also ask your ex to leave which can be a pretty complicated task. On the other hand, if you break up at their house, that's easier, because you can end the relationship and pretty much leave right after. I would recommend you stick to a neutral place, though. Go to a restaurant, a bar, a park. Just chose some place that you know you'll both feel comfortable in. Those are always best.

2. Be kind. You have to remember that when you breakup with someone, it's obvious that the whole thing will be much harder for them than for you. Please try to understand their feelings, emotions and what they are going through. After all, they might have had great hopes about this relationship, so respect those feelings. Remember as well that after you break up with them, you'll most likely not have to have anything to do with them again, so don't try to be mean just to get revenge even if you think they deserve it. Just be nice. It'll be easier this way.

3. Don't drag it. I mean, you're there to achieve a specific goal, to break up. Do just that. Obviously, your partner will want to know why he's being "let go" so to speak, but you don't have to spend 30 minutes explaining it to them. Just say what you have to say very briefly and try to avoid fixing them. You're breaking up and not playing a psychologist.

4. Be a grown up about it and meet with them for the break up. I mean, you've spent a long time with your partner and he deserves at least that much. Don't just type up a short email saying you don't like them anymore, or send an SMS message saying "it's over". Have the guts to meet with them and face the situation. I mean, I know this might be very difficult, but it'll be worth it.

5. Be sure to get your things back. You don't want to deal with your partner anymore, right? Make sure you remember all the things you want returned and get them. If you forget anything, you're going to have to come back, so really think this through.

6. Be sure that your breakup is really a breakup. Everyone has hopes that "everything will work out". The problem is that unless you both want it to work out, it probably won't, so don't give your partner the impression that it will. Try to stay away from them at least for a few month after the breakup. This way you'll both be able to move on with your lives quite nicely.

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