First date advice - Sweep her off her feet

By Love and Relationships Staff

Yesterday I finally did it. That’s right; I finally asked the girl I’ve been thinking about for ages out on a date. Man she’s cool, and sweet, and shit she’s hot. So I sent an email to an old friend of mine Alicia. I asked her; do girls like to be swept off their feet? And if so, how do you do it?

It must have been a slow day at the government department she works at, because this is the reply she sent me a couple of hours later:

Hi Dave

Great work on the date. Now down to business.

Do girls want to be swept off their feet on a first date? HELLLLLL YEESSSS.

Every woman is different in their needs, wants and expectations of a first date, and usually that’s going to be different to what you are thinking. And Dave, the first date is the hardest date to master so make sure you use what you know about her to your advantage when planning the date. If you met her at a bar, did you find out what she’s into? Make sure you know, so you can plan something you know she’ll like.

Dave, I know this sounds like I’m your mother, but girls like guys who are clean and smell great. Make the date casual, start off with an early-ish drink, so then you have the choice of going onto dinner, or if it isn’t working out, you can end the date quick as.

Now I don’t know about this girl, but some women like to be looked after, so open the car door, allow her to walk into the bar/ restaurant first, and pay for the first drink.

Women love compliments, but only make the compliment if you believe it. There’s no point in saying something when you don’t believe it. And we love it when you show an interest in us, so do it! And make sure you listen, as we are very intuitive and can tell when you are not listening…..and bullshitting.

Dave, did I tell you about my date a few weeks ago? I met the guy on the net, we’d never actually met but had chatted on the dating site. We seemed to hit it off online and were both keen to meet, so we both came up with the idea of catching up down by the sea. It was a beautiful hot day, so I suggested I would bring a bottle of wine and plastic glasses. We met late evening on the shore front, talked and finished the bottle of wine. The date was amazing, great conversation and laughs, it was easy. We were both dressed casually but smart. That evening we came across fire throwers and on the spur of the moment, we were both attempting to swing fire balls. It was a memorable first date for me… unplanned and unpredictable. Unfortunately it only lasted 2 weeks, as I found out that he was also dating other woman. But it was a great date.

Of course there are some women who like more structure to a date, while others will just go with the flow. So make sure you always have plan B in your mind, just in case.

And remember, if you go all out on the first date then you’ve set the expectation, and you won’t always be able to do that on every date. Some women will expect that from then on, and some won’t. So hence keeping it casual keeps you out of deep water and won’t make you bankrupt.

Dave, hope this makes sense. Hey the wonder-boss is looking over my shoulder so I better go. Let me know how it goes.

XX
Alicia

I was surprised at her reply, not only the content, but that she had that much time on her hands on a Thursday morning at work.

And then I read it again, and tried to decide what I should do on my date. A lot like women generally, I found it confusing. Extracting the general points I concluded the date should take her personality into account, start with a drink and possibly involve dinner, be casual but not too casual, be planned but spontaneous, and preferably involve unplanned fire throwers. I should complement her if I meant it, listen to her, and set the bar high but not too high. There was so much to remember, and take into account I didn’t know what to do.

At the moment I’m thinking I’ll just do what I do on every first date; take her to my favourite Japanese restaurant and loosen up the atmosphere with a few hot sakes.

I wonder what Alicia will say about that.

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